Because if it doesn’t constitute battery, that doesn’t mean it’s not assault.
Because appealing to tribalism by “think of if it was your sister, daughter, mother” may solder a few new emotional connections within those who are questioning or otherwise in the dark re: feminist issues, but it’s an imperfect and partial approach. One of my most drastic emotional responses is to the story of the man who followed my mom in his car while she was jogging, then offered her candy, then sped off after she cursed him out. But once you finish constructing that bridge over the sympathy gap, you gotta reasonably maintain it. Widen and add lanes, install rumble strips. Don’t treat it like our government treats theirs.
Because it applies to women with dicks/jobs/no jobs/no dicks/money/no money/husbands/no husbands/power/no power.
Because when I was eighteen and she was trying to tell me something conflicted I couldn’t wrap my mind around why she would kiss him if she didn’t want to.
Because I drove to meet a New York girl, born and raised, smart as a whip, and when I opened the car door from the driver’s side I saw she was clutching a pen in one hand and I didn’t know why.
Because I and we have to remind my and ourselves to stifle the reflex to wish, to REALLY WISH, that she’s just being over emotional and whiny and that those are things women just do because hey, how awesome and smart and cool does that make me/us by comparison?
Because the everyday exchange of human kindness and cruelty and indifference is not a market free of corruption, perversion, and malicious appropriation by those consciously and unconsciously wishing to consolidate their (perceived and actual) power.
Because congressmen and -women can and sometimes do respond to their electorate.
Because humans are not just hardware. We’re wetware. Our response to a strange or troubling idea might be stubborn or it might be positive. Our response to no strange or troubling ideas is nothing.
Because when you see it, you can’t unsee it, and you have to choose to not look away.
Because shame and internalization is both a helpless reaction and a personal choice and only in acknowledging both can any thinker start a change in themselves.
Because it only takes one. But it will always take more.
Because we have none of the luxuries of time or ornamentation with which to express certain pain and frustration.
Because forcing “because” into a preposition is a little messy but messy language is often what you need for messy times.
Because for many of us, the idea that they’re our intellectual equals is a given. But for more of us, the idea that, underneath the centuries of social and economic and sexual and educational segregation, perhaps they could actually be our intellectual superiors…that may be kernel of icy fear at the seat of most of the antifeminist bloviation you’ve witnessed these past few days.
This dude gets it.
brb adding “Certified Feminist Zealot” to my business cards after having been thus anointed on Twitter.
avoiding hate like
Trying to embody this gif over in twitter in the wake of that #YesAllWomen tweet blowing up but the responses are starting to seriously damage my calm.
1. THIS SHOW IS NOT FOR ME / I CAN’T RELATE
HULK REMEMBERS THE FIRST MOVIE HULK EVER RELATED TO. IT MIRRORED EXACTLY HOW LITTLE HULK GREW UP ON THIS MOISTURE FARM IN THE DESERT PLANET OF TATOOINE AND ALL OF SUDDEN THESE TWO DROIDS SHOWED UP AND CHANGED HULK’S LIFE FOREVER. YOU SEE [SARCASTIC JOKE GOES ON]. THE GENUINE POINT IS THAT IDENTIFICATION IN THESE SORTS OF DIRECT TERMS IS MEANINGLESS. WE DON’T RELATE TO OCCUPATIONS AND STATUS. WE RELATE TO EMOTIONS. WE EMPATHIZE WITH PEOPLE GETTING CRAPPED ON IN LIFE. AND REALLY? 20-SOMETHINGS FRESH OUT OF COLLEGE WITHOUT A JOB? THAT’S SOMETHING THAT’S NOT PRETTY UNIVERSAL? … OKAY.
2. YEAH, BUT THE SHOW IS ABOUT WHINY 20-SOMETHINGS WHO THINK NEW YORK IS THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE
YES. THAT’S WHAT IT’S ABOUT. BUT THE SHOW IS OFTEN LOOKING AT THEM WITH A CRITICAL EYE. BUT UNLIKE, SAY, A SHOW LIKE IT’S ALWAYS SUNNY IN PHILADELPHIA WHICH MAKES THEIR SELFISHNESS OVERT AND THUS ONE BIG JOKE, THERE IS A GRAY LAYER TO THIS ONE. MEANING THE THEORETICAL PROBLEM OF GIRLS IS THAT IT ALSO HAS AN UNDERSTANDING EYE TOWARD ITS WORLD. IT’S NOT OUTRIGHT CONDEMNING BEHAVIORS YOU MAY FIND CONDEMNABLE. IT IS TRYING TO HUMANIZE THEM. TO HULK, THE EFFECT IS AN HONEST APPROACH TO PEOPLE WHO ARE TOTALLY WHINY, YOUNG NEW YORKERS, BUT WHO, AMAZINGLY ENOUGH, CAN STILL HAVE VERY REAL, TEXTURED, WELL-OBSERVED AND RATHER FUNNY LIVES.
I wish I could excerpt the whole thing - there’s a brilliant preface about I Am Love and how you can not like a piece of media but still learn from it and the criticism surrounding it, as well as a few more bullet points addressing other complaints people have lobbed at Girls (including the race thing).
Seriously, if you’re at all interested in pop culture & criticism, this is well worth your time.
We are, I am, you are
by cowardice or courage
the one who find our way
back to this scene
carrying a knife, a camera
a book of myths
our names do not appear.
Rest in peace.